Why I’m Going to be a Stay at Home Mom

I didn’t always like the idea of being a stay at home mom.  I thought it would be better to get a job and leave my kids with strangers every day.  I thought it would be funner to go out and get a job than stay home and raise my children.  I didn’t think being home with my kids would really make a difference in their lives.  Obviously my plans have changed and being home with my kids and husband is a big priority. Here’s why!

As I said before, I did not want to be a stay at home mom.  It honestly didn’t really cross my mind.  I didn’t grow up in a home where my mom stayed home all the time (she did stay home when she could though).  I never really heard of mothers staying home with their kids all the time and homeschooling (which is a completely different topic that will be coming in a blog soon).  When I met my husband, he told me he wanted to marry someone that would stay home with his kids.  I thought he was a little insane, but then he told me why.

Kids need to be nurtured by their mother.  When you leave every day to go to work, they are not getting that contact with their mom that they need.  Instead, you are dropping them off with strangers at a daycare, or maybe one of your friends or family members, to let them raise your kid for you because apparently your job is more important.  Being a stay at home mom is NECESSARY to help your children become children of God!  

I’m not trying to discredit those women who work, but if you do work and have a child at home, you should be trying to change that.  Your child needs you every day, all the time.  If you and your husband are struggling with money, you may need to work.  But only work if it is absolutely needed.  If you will be on the streets because you don’t work, then you must work to help your family.  But if you not working means you will have to go out to eat less, then that is a sacrifice you must make.

Every Christian woman should long to be like the Proverbs 31 woman.  If you do not know of her, I encourage you to go read Proverbs 31 right now.  Verse 10 says, “Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.”  The word “virtuous” means someone who shows moral standard.  She is far above rubies!  I would love to be known as that woman.  The passage goes on to describe what makes a woman virtuous.  This woman honors her husband (v. 11) , grows her own food (v. 16), has a business from home (v. 24), and is called blessed by her children and husband (v. 28).

Another passage in the Bible that talks about what a woman must be is found in Titus 2.  I also encourage you to read this passage!  Titus 2:5 says that women are….

To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

-Titus 2:5

This is a great verse.  This shows us that we are to be keepers at home, obedient to our husbands, careful with our speech, and sexually pure.  We must really take this verse to heart.  After all, the Bible is God’s Word and we are to be obedient to it!

All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness.

– 2 Timothy 3:16

I believe there is nothing wrong with working from home as long as you can still take care of your children.  I would like to find a way to work from home (blogging maybe?) now so that when I have children I do not need to worry about having enough money to stay home.

Think back to when you were a child.  Would you have done better in school, had better relationships, learned valuable skills, and enjoyed being with your mom all the time?  Would you have enjoyed going to the grocery store with her, learning how to cook with her, and playing with her throughout the day?  Did you enjoy getting dropped off with a stranger when you were young and just starting to learn and grow?

My mom used to babysit when she stayed home with my brother and I.  When she didn’t have a job that is what she did to make money and I loved it!  I loved that she was home all of the time and she could teach me how to take care of children (even though I was one).  I remember on multiple occasions, kids would start calling her “mom” because they would always be with her and away from their real mothers.  I remember one mother getting very upset because her kids only wanted to be with my mom.  She was their mom in their minds!  She was the one that put them down for naps, who cooked for them, who bathed them, and who read them books.  I’m sure their mother still did this stuff for them, but only for a few hours a day when she got back from work.

The Bible doesn’t say anything bad about women who must work outside of the home, but it is obvious that a woman should be a stay at home mother and wife.  I want to make it clear that your children need you.  They want you to be home with them, to teach them, and to help them grow.  No one can better do that for your child, than you can.